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Igunya Lobuzali Enganeni Esikhulile
Ngingazi kanjani ngokungangabazisi ukuthi ingane yami iyinhlwa yenhlekisa kwimiqhafazo kumbe amahebezi amabi kwi social media? Zikhona yini izimpawu ? Uma kuwukuthi ngempela ingane yami yenziwa umantindane kwezokuxhumana ,ngingayisiza ngani mina?
Igunya lobuzali enganeni esikhulile
Manje njengoba indodana yethu isangaphezu kuka 18 ,iqhubeke isithobele? Ibhayibheli lithi izingane ‘azilalele’ futhi ‘zithobele ‘ abazali bazo (kwabase Fesu 6:1 , KwaBase Kolose 3:20 ) ,kodwa yena uthi ngoba usemdala lomyalelo awusaqondile kuyena.Nizwa kanjani lendaba? Kukusiphi isigaba lakhona ingane esikhulile esuke isizimele khona ngokuphelele ingasaludingi ulawulo lwabazali?
Ukukipita nesoka elihlukumezayo
Ninazo izimpendulo ngomuntu ogaxele ebudlelwaneni obuyimbidlizo? Esokeni lami leminyaka eyisithupha ngiqeda kuthola nje umntwana. Besihlala sinqubuzana ,kodwa ligaye ngomunye umhlathi ,nje ,ekutheni sihlale ndawonye onyakeni nengxenye odlule.Icebo lethu kwakuwukuhlanganyela izindleko ze-rent nokunye,okugcine kwenziwa yimi konke.Kade ngangifuna ukuphuma kulesimo.Kodwa kuthe mangikhulelwa ngabona kusemqoka ingane yami ikhule siwumndeni.Sisendawonye namanje kodwa izinto zimaxhapheshu.Uyangihlukumeza…
Izindlela zokubhekana nobudlelwano obu online
Uthini umbono wenu ngokungena othandweni online? Ngineminyaka nje eko 20 manje kunentokazi engihlangane nayo kwi –internet .Ihlala kwesinye isifundazwe sesinakhashanyana sixoxa nayo ngocingo kusuka sahlangana. Sobabili sizimisele ukuhlumisa lobudlelwano bethu ,kodwa inqaba asikaze sibonane ngobuso .Ninazo iziyalo siqhubeke kanjani?
Ukukhuthaza imikhuba enempilo ekhaya
Ngingawusiza kanjani umndeni wami ube nenqubo yokuzigcina uphilile? Sinezingane ezincane ,futhi ngithanda konke engingakwenza kuleminyaka sisaqala ,ukukhuthaza wonke umuntu layikhaya –umama-ubaba nezingane ukuqopha umkhuba oyosigcina siphilile sijabulile qede usiphe iminyaka emide sindawonye.Ningangipha amasu okwenza lokhu?
Ukubhekana nowakwakho osewadlula ngokuba
Ngibhekana kanjani nomkhwenyana ongenandaba nesikhathi? Kuyo yonke into uhlale e late ngaphandle kwasemsebenzini.Ngiyazi akulona icala lami ,kodwa kwenza namI ngibe late uma ngihamba naye ,lokho okudicilela phansi isithunzi.Okusemqoka ,ukuthi ukuqhubeka kwakhe nokuba late kwenza bangasihloniphi abantu futhi sibalindise njalo nje . Umngani wami uthe angiyizibe lenkinga ukuze kube nokuthula emshadweni…
Ubaba odiniwe, indodana ediniwe
Ngingancedakala kanjani ekulawuleni ukucasuka kumadodana ami? Umkhwenyana wami uzalwa olibweni olude lokhokho ababehlala bediniwe ,sengiqala ukubona nezingane zami zingena kulowomgudu.Ngenzenjani?
Kungani incwadi yomshado nomshado ubalulekile
Kwenziwa yini amakholwa egcizelela ukuba ‘nalelipheshana’ okuthiwa incwadi yomshado ukuze umshado wabo ube semthethweni? Mina nesancinza sami siyakholwa futhi sizimisele ukuba ndawonye impilo yethu yonke.Side sizibuza kungani kumele senzane nencwadi yomshado .Umshado kanti awukho yini phakathi kwabantu ababili ,isivumelwano sabo ngqo? Uma nivumelana ngokomoya pho uhulumeni ulandeni? Uma sihambisana sivumelana…
Ukukhulelwa ungashadile qede umfana anagfuni ukuba ngubaba
Isoka lami ngingalikhuthaza kanjani liqonde sekuyaphoqa libe ngubaba?Inyanga yokugcina le ngikhulelwe ,kodwa kuze kube manje akukho akwenzayo.Wangiqonda ngqo!wangitshela emehlweni ukuthi akakaziboni ewubaba.Emva kweminyaka emibili usede eqhela kimi ,bese ngithi mhlampe ingane izosihlanganisa.Ngimdinelwe ,futhi ngifuna ukuhlukana naye ,inkinga nje ingane.Angikwazi ukukhulisa ingane yethu ngedwa ,ngisho kuthiwa ngingakwazi angeke ngikwenze .Ningangisiza?
Ukunqubuzana nokuklwebhana kwezingane
Singamisa kanjani ngamadodakazi ethu enye ino 13 enye ino 7 weminyaka Bengahlali belwa.Ngibona imiphumela yakho konke lokulwa kwabo iyogcina inokulimala .Siwumndeni okholwayo ngakho ke sesibafundise kaningi ukuba mnene ,nothando nokuthethelelana .Emva kwalesosifundiso baye bathembise bazoshinstha kodwa emva kwesikhathi ubone ukuthi bekuyiculo nje.Kunini lakhona okumele sibone lokhu kulwa kwabo, sekuphimile esandleni…
Umkhwenyana wami uhlukumeza izingane zami ngamazwi nengaphakathi
Umkhwenyana wami akakaze asihlukumeze ngokomzimba ,kodwa uhlale njalo engcofa izingane ukuba zizizwe zingelutho.Isibonelo ;uzitshela ziyiziphukuphuku namavila.Umfana wethu akamkhuthazi kwezemidlalo.Utshela undodakazi ukuthi mubi unemicondo .Ziyazama izingane ukumziba ziqinise ubuso kuye.Kodwa mina ngiyabona izingqondo zazo ziyezwela kulokhu kugxekwa.Ngifuna ukuzisiza kodwa ngifuna futhi ukuba umama othobekile.Ngikhathazekile uzophendula kanjani uma ngimqonda .Ngenzenjani?
Sivikela kanjani intsha ekuzifakeni ocansini online
Yiziphi izinto engingazenza ukuvimba umuntu omusha wami angazifaki ocansini ngemiqhafazo?Ngikhathazekile uma ngifunda ukuthi izinga likhula kangakanani ezinganeni ezithe shi kulolubishi ngama –phone.Ngiyaqonda futhi ukuthi imiphumela ingaba ngenzulu.Ngakolunye uhlangothi angazi ukuthi yini engingayenza ukuvikela lesisimo.Nicabangani?
Umama ofuna uthande yena yedwa noma usumdala
Ningangiluleka nithini ngoMawami onomona ngami ufuna ngiphathwe nguye kuphela?Nakuba nami sengagana ngathola nezingane zami kodwa nje usangiphathisa okwengane . Mina kuyangijabulisa ukunamathela kuye kodwa yena uyeqisa,futhi ufuna sibe ngabangani bomhlaba! Uze anyukubale uma ngizihlalele nobaba kumbe amanye amalunga omndeni.Ngisho omalume no anti makunezipho abafuna ukungijabulisa ngazo yena uhlale efuna sengathi…
Unkosikazi ongenkamunkamu nezingane afice umkhwenyana enazo
Unkosikazi engishade naye manje akanaluzwelo ngezingane zami engangizithole konkosikazi wokuqala.Sezizonke izingane zethu ziwu -4 –Eziwu 2 ezami zomshado wokuqala-eziwu 2 ezethu kulo-Kodwa ukhonze ezizalwa nguye kuphela.Sisaqala wayekhombisa ukuzimukela,kodwa manje akasazizwa sanhlobo enhlizyweni yakhe.Loluhlobo lwento luyenzeka kuyo yonke imindeni enabantwana abahlukene? Ngenze njani ngalesisimo?
Ukubuyisa ukuthembana emshadweni
Singenze njani ukubuyisela ukuthembana emva kweminyaka ebe nezimo ezibuhlungu emshadweni wethu ebezidinga ukuthethelelana sobabili? Singakubuyisa kanjani ukuthembana ebudlelwaneni bethu?
Ubuzali obuqotho phakathi ezihlotsheni eziziphilelela ngenkambo ephansi
Ingempela ngempela sizikhulisa kanjani izingane zethu la khona abangani nozalo bephila ngendlela ephambene nezinkambiso zethu? Singumndeni oqatha okholwayo sifuna izingane zethu ziphila ngenkambo yobuKhrestu.Nokho akusibo bonke abaphila njengathi,ngisho o anti,obaba nomakhelwane bamelene nenkambo yoBuKhrestu futhi bafuna ukukhipha konke esikufaka ezinganeni zethu.Senzenjani kulesosimo?
Ukuqondisa ingane ehlale ibaleka
Ubhekana kanjani nengane ezenzela okwayo ,okuthi mase uyibiza ivese ibaleke ngoba ibona izojeziswa?Makuke nje kwanenkinga uyanyamalala ,sekomele side simjaha,ungasayiphathi eyokumqondisa.Ngakube lokhu kujwayelekile ,sibhekane kanjani nakho?
Ukuchama njalo ebusuku kwengane esikhulile
Singammisa kanjani umfana wethu ukuchama njalo? Singathola kanjani umnyombo walokhu kuchama esemdala? Kuyakhathaza ukuwasha njalo izingubo zakhe zokulala esezibhukudise ngomchamo.Sengilahlakelwe ukubekezela futhi naye ngiyambona ulimele ngokuthi sengidiniwe.Sikhona isisombululo kulenkinga?
Ukufundisa izingane inhlonipho esikhathini engasangenwa khona
Ngingafundisa kanjani isizotha ezinganeni zami ngoba sekubukeka kuyinto esikhohlakala ezinganeni nakwabadala.Kusemqoka kimi kodwa ngibuka ubunzima besikhathi esikuso. Ngingabafundisa kanjani abami bebe nomozwa ngomunye umuntu njengoba sesiphila nje esikhathini lakhona abantu bengesenandaba nomunye?
Umnyeni wami uyahlukumezana emzimbeni
umkhwenyana wami usebe nomkhuba wokuba wudlame emshadweni wethu wonke.Ngizizwa ngagaxela la.Kwezinye izikhathi ngisabela ukuphepha kwami,kodwa angazi ngintunte ngiyephi.Ningangisiza’