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Obaba bafundisa kanjani amadodakazi abo isizotha?
Obaba bangasiza kanjani amadodakazi abo afunde isizotha ? Ngifuna indodakazi yami ikubambe lokhu phambi kokuba ibe yi- teenager.Kodwa ngizwa kuseceleni kimi ukukhuluma ngalesosihloko .Ngibona ukuthi kimi njengoyise ngingaba lusizo kuyo kulesisihloko kumbe ngibe wukuyidumaza, ingazizwa kahle.Yiliphi iqhaza eliqondile kubaba la?
Ingane yesaba usathane
Ngingehlisa kanjani ukwesaba enganeni yami ngoSathane? Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa umtanami ona 5 uyaqhaqhazela ngalesihloko.Uhlale njalo ebuza imibuzo ngoSathane ,bese ebukeka ehlasimula ngalokhu angakwenza kuye.Uyaya kuSontoskole ,siyathandaza sifunde ibhayibheli sonke ndawonye.Okwamanje ,kubukeka konke lokho kungasizi .Ngizamile okusemandleni ukumqinisa,kodwa kumele ngivume ukuthi kwamina akukuningi engikwaziyo ngoSathane .Ningangitshela ngqo ukuthi zithini izibhalo ngaye
Ukuhuheka kumngani wowakwakho
Ngingamtshela yini umnyeni wami ukuthi ngihuheka ngomngani wakhe oseduze naye ? Ngike ngezwa kuthiwa loluhlobo lolwazi lungaxoxwa abaganene ngenhloso yokuvulekelana ,nokho ngimanqika ukuthi kuwubuhlakani lokho .kulamadoda omabili akekho owaziyo ngofudulo lwami lwangaphakathi futhi angifuni ukulimaza ubungani babo.Ngenzenjani?
Umkhwenyana ongathembekile ufuna ukuba sothandweni nomunye wesifazane
Ngibhekane kanjani nokungethembeki komkhwenyana wami osekwenzeke ngokuphindaphindwa aze angiqonde angicele ngqo ukuthi ufuna ukuba nothando lwaseceleni nomunye wesifazane ? Yonke leminyaka umshado usube sesivunguvungwini .Ekugcineni nje useze wavuma ukuthi usothandweni nomunye ngasitha.Ngimthethelele ukuphinga kwakhe,kodwa manje uthi ufuna ukukhulisa ubudlelwano anabo bangaphandle ebe eqhubeka elayikhaya.Ngizimisele ukutakula umshado wethu ,nokho angifuni ukumchukuluza…
Umfana ona-3 udlala ngokugqoka izingubo nosisi bakhe
Ngingamvumela yini umfana wami ona 3 weminyaka ukuba adlale ngokugqoka izingubo nodadewabo? Akajabuliswa nje kuphela ukugqoka amalokwe abo odadewabo, kodwa uze agqoke nobucwebe bamantombazane. Kimi loluphawu alwehli kahle.Ngingalumisa kanjani?
Unkosikazi wami uyahlukumeza ngokwenyama
Ngiphendule kanjani kunkosikazi ode eba nomoya wadlame? Kanye nakabili ngonyaka mina nonkosikazi wami siye sibe nokuphikisana okuze kuphume esandleni .Ezikhathini ezithile ,usho izinto ezicofayo ngami okubandakanya ukuthi ,’ngiyakuzonda’.Ngiye ngibeke phansi umoya ,lokho okugcina kumenza agcine esenodlame imbala.Angijikijele ngezinto aze azame ukungishaya angikhahlele .okwamanje angikaze ngibhekane nokulimala okukhulu ,nokho ngikhathazekile uma…
Ukuhushula nezempilo zikamama
Kuyenzeka ngempela ube ngolwela ukuphila, ube futhi uvumelana nokuhushula esimweni lakhona impilo kamama isencupheni ? Kuthini ukubuka kwenu kulumbuzo wezobuqotho onzima ?
Uku ‘adopter’ ingane ehlukumezekile
Yikuphi esidinga ukukwazi kuqala uma sizo adopter umntwana oseke wahlukumezeka? Sicabanga uku- adopter ingane engaphansi kuka 2 weminyaka eyasuswa kubo isenezinyanga ngenxa yohlukumezeko .Ibisabekwe kwi-system ye foster care unyaka wonke odlule .Yikuphi okuyincuphe esizibeka kukho ?
Umkhwenyana akafuni ukuyosebenza
Kukhona kodwa engingakwenza ngendoda enqaba ukuthola umsebenzi ? Sineminyaka ewu 12 sishadile ,kwewu 10 yonke ubezihlalele ekhaya engenzi lutho lonke usuku ngesikhathi mina ngisemsebenzini .Akafaki lutho ekhaya nasemndenini wethu .Kuye akuthi shu .Enye yezingane zethu yatholakala nesifo okubizayo ukuselapha manje umsebezni wami wodwa angeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalezondleko.Nanxa kunjalo ufuna ukuqhubeka…
Ukubuka ezezimali kwabasanda kushada
Ningangisiza nomkhwenyana wami sihlele izimpokophelo zempilo ngokwezimali ezihambisana nathi sindawonye? Akukudala sishadile,umkhwenyana wami useqalile ukukhuluma ngokuthenga umuzi nokusungula isikhwama somhlalaphansi.Kanti mina ngisakhathazwe nje uku- renta nokudla .Kuyaphatheka akushoyo ? Ngakube ngizikhathaza ngobala? Ikhona yini indlela yokubhalansisa lokhubuka kwethu ?
Ukukhuthaza Ingxoxo niwumndeni
Kusemqoka kanganani ukuhlale kuhlale umndeni ube nethuba lokuxoxa? Emshadweni wethu ukuxoxa sekube yingwadla eside isikhathi,kodwa mumva nje sengiqaphele ukuthi lenkinga isithungele nasezinganeni: kubukeka akasekho layikhaya onesikhathi sokuxoxa nomunye.Angazi lokhu kwenzeke kanjani ,futhi ngiyamangala ngokukushoyo ngempilo yomndeni kwezobudlelwane.Kodwa ngingenze njani ukucima lomhlolo?
Unkosikazi unongakuqondi ngezocansi ngomkhwenyana wakhe
Ngingamenza kanjani umkhwenyana wami aqonde ukuthi angiyena umuntu ofuna ukuba senkonzweni njalo njengaye? Uma ngimtshela angikho semoyeni wenkonzo ,uvese acasuke athi ,ziningi kabi izinto naye angenzela zona noma engekho semoyeni ngalesosikhathi -njengokuya emsebenzini,ukusiza emsebenzini wasekhaya ,nokuwasha izitsha.Ngizamile ukumtshela ,akuyona into efanayo leyo ,kunalokho akangikholwa futhi akangilaleli .Kukhona okungalungile kimi?
Ingane ephindaphinda amagama ahlabayo ashiwo nguwakwakho
Ngiphendule kanjani uma izingane zami zithi obenguwakwami kade enza izinkulumo ezibucayi nezinonya ngami? Ibuphi ubuhlukani ukubhekana naloludaba?
Abazali abesaba kunokwenzeka ingane yabo iyisisulu sokuxhashazwa kwezokuxhumana
Ngingazi kanjani ngokungangabazisi ukuthi ingane yami iyinhlwa yenhlekisa kwimiqhafazo kumbe amahebezi amabi kwi social media? Zikhona yini izimpawu ? Uma kuwukuthi ngempela ingane yami yenziwa umantindane kwezokuxhumana ,ngingayisiza ngani mina?
Ukusungula Izindlela ezihlabela phambili zokuxhumana nezingane
Singabafundisa kanjani abantwana bethu ubuciko bokulalela? Babukeka behluleka ukulandela ulayelo .Odabeni lwendodakazi yami ngicabanga iyaziba izikhathi eziningi.Okukandodana wami khona ,ubukeka eziqinisa ezakhe izindlebe bese abe matasa nomabonakude,izincwadi nama video game,noma yini enye ayenzayo okwenza engasuseki kuyo.Ngizithola sengide ngiphinda phinda into eyodwa.Zikhona iziluleko eningangipha zona?
Umkhwenyana ohlulwa ukuthethela unkosikazi
Ngingadlula kanjani ebucayini bomkami enza ngabo, futhi ngikhohlwe okuningi okuhlasimulisayo akusho kimi phambilini ? emva kweminyaka sisemshadweni,sengifike lakhona ngingesenakukuthwala.Angikholelwa kwisahlukaniso ,yikho sesiphila impilo eqhelelene sibe sindlwinye ,naye uzilalela kwelakhe ikamero.Manje ufuna ngimthethelele ukuze sihlabele phambili nomshado wethu ,kodwa ngokwami akukho kalula kanjalo nje .Amagama akhe ahlabayo asenkenketha emicabangweni yami ,futhi…
Umama nobaba baphikisana ngokuqondisa izigwegwe enganeni
Singafika kanjani ekuvumelaneni nonkosikazi wami mayelana nokuqondisa izingane? Ngizamile ukufundisa indodana yami uqondiso oluqinile,kodwa unkosikazi wami uhlale ephikisana nezindlela zami. Uthi nginesandla esiqinile kumfana.Njengoba ungazicabangela,lokho kungaba yisilonda emshadweni wethu.Ngingafeza kanjani engikholwa kuyiqhaza lami njengobaba emshadweni wethu ngibe futhi ngiqhubeka nokwazisa umkami nezimvo zakhe?
Ukuqhubekela phambili emva kokushonelwa ngothandiweyo
Ngingenzenjani ukunqoba usizi olungengamile emva kokufa komnyeni wami ? Walwa nokugula eminyakeni yokugula kwakhe emibili.Ngenxa yalokho impilo yami yonke yabe isingukunakekela yena . Manje lowomzabalazo usudlule , ngizizwa ngiyigobolonde nosizi. Angazi ngijikele kuphi kumbe ngenzeni elandelayo .Ningangisiza?
Uwakwakho onamathele kweqe kubazali nongqubuzano kubazali abavese batheleke bengashilo
Ngingenza kanjani ukukhombisa umnyeni wami ukuthi uhambisa phambili izidingo zabazali bakhe kunezami?Emva kweminyaka sashada ,kodwa ukunamathela kwakhe kubaba nomama wakhe buqine kweqe futhi budala umonakalo ebudlelwaneni bethu.Ngimtshelile ngalokhu kodwa yena akaboni nkinga.”
Ukubuka ukugembula ngokwebhayibheli
Ngakube ngempela ibhayibheli lithi kubi ukugembula? Ngiyabona ukuthi nakho kunjengoku dansa nokudlala amakhadi –amakholwa aqinisa kakhulu, amelene nakho.nokho angikholwa kunezisekelo zezwi azisebenzisa ukumelana nakho mina engikubuka kuwumdlalo nje ongenabungozi.