Confessions: Trouble with a mama's boy
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Every Thursday around this time, we detail some of the wildest confessions from the streets of Mzansi. We get YOU to weigh in on your unfiltered thoughts.
This week's confession went like this:
"I fear that my boyfriend of six years has no intention of marrying me, not because he doesn’t love me, but because I refuse to replace his mother. I won’t manage his life, cushion his consequences, or pretend that adulthood is optional. I love him deeply, but love alone cannot compete with the comfort of a home where his meals are prepared, his laundry is done, and his responsibilities are postponed indefinitely.
I want partnership, commitment, and the discipline that comes with choosing someone every day. He, on the other hand, seems content remaining a son before becoming a husband. And the more I push for growth, the more I am made to feel unreasonable, demanding, or impatient.
What troubles me most is the quiet realisation that I may not be waiting on a proposal, but on a man to outgrow the safety net he has no incentive to leave. And I am left asking myself a difficult question: am I asking too much, or simply asking the wrong person?”
Here's what you had to say...
This week's confession went like this:
"I fear that my boyfriend of six years has no intention of marrying me, not because he doesn’t love me, but because I refuse to replace his mother. I won’t manage his life, cushion his consequences, or pretend that adulthood is optional. I love him deeply, but love alone cannot compete with the comfort of a home where his meals are prepared, his laundry is done, and his responsibilities are postponed indefinitely.
I want partnership, commitment, and the discipline that comes with choosing someone every day. He, on the other hand, seems content remaining a son before becoming a husband. And the more I push for growth, the more I am made to feel unreasonable, demanding, or impatient.
What troubles me most is the quiet realisation that I may not be waiting on a proposal, but on a man to outgrow the safety net he has no incentive to leave. And I am left asking myself a difficult question: am I asking too much, or simply asking the wrong person?”
Here's what you had to say...
